on the fallacies about men and women in porn

Someone one the internet wrote:

Behind my stare is a pornography and media machine that communicates in nearly every single message that women are endlessly inadequate, weak objects and that men are dominant, in control, and powerful.

And I have to answer: 

Yes and no!

Whenever I switch on the telly to watch my favourite programs I see stupid men and intelligent and educated women in control. It does not matter if I watch the Simpson´s or if I watch House of Cards. Women are the reasonable ones and men are the stupid ones. They are controlled by their wives. Women are dominant on the TV screen. Or can you name any program where women are the idiots and the men reasonable nice guys?

Sure, if you watch trash-TV, sou see dumb girls objectified by their objectified dumb nuts riding together his pimped cars. Or you see a rich guy who buys himself a beautiful young woman, who says yes because this old bloke has tons of money. Do I lie, Melania? So. Look in the eyes of the truth. Men are objects in this world, too.

Anyways,  I think we can agree here. Media with its stereotypes is a pile of poo…

Coming to porn, well…this is so flat what you write. So one-sided that it hurts. Have you ever scrolled through a porn website? No? I admit I have done it! Of course just to cross-check my theories!

So I´ll explain it to you! Porn-Industry does not say that women are weak and endlessly inadequate! Porn industry says: Woman are desirable and available.And It does not matter if she is caucasian, asian, latin, afro-amercian or an eskimo. It does not even matter if she hass mall boobs or big boobs. You can choose between too thin and too fat. Or normal. It may sound cinically, but in these terms porn is absolutely anti-racist.

And looking into porn itself: The whole woman counts. Nothing of the man is important but his dick. The man is reduced to his dick. Meanwhile the viewer (wanker) is actually filled up with the idea he will have sex with a woman far from his status, because this girl is too beautiful for him he thinks. And he may think his penis is not big enough. And OH! He is not as muscular as this sunburned cowboy.

So, well. You are right! Women in porn are objectified! Objectified as goddesses! I want to make it clear to you: The women are goddesses to their wanking slaves.

You know what porn actually is? It is a religious mass to the women by their fellow wankers, these sad characters who sit like a pubertary Kevin home alone where no burglar would enter! Men are enslaved to sexual phantasies which are absolutely unreal.

And this has real-world effects!

And you know what is really bad? That you don´t know if „the actress“ has done that willingly, whether the coercion of her pimp or her poverty* has made her taking part in the porn. Once again: The ones who suffer are women and men.  Very differently.

 

*and if you happen to think that this US-porn is ok, check the poverty rate there…

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11 Gedanken zu “on the fallacies about men and women in porn

  1. I hope your counter-ideas have reached the addressee also. I do not care about gender disputes. Porn, on the other hand, goes to my mind, disgusts me. Porn kills the imagination. The regular porn consumer is easy to recognize. He is practising learned techniques he learned on screen, has no idea how they feel in real to a woman, and at the same time he thinks to be a self-immortal Mime.
    Who would have thought, time past, when for sexual liberation was fought, that today every eroticism – and I mean true eroticism, which can express itself in a glance or touching of hands – is drowned in a flood of sex. The one-time eruption of the sexually liberated has become a compulsion to promiscuity. Sex as consumption. Anyone who does not consume it in senseless fleshy encounters must justify him/herself.
    Boahh !!!

  2. Lot of issues in here: consumerism critiques, neurology, psychology. I do not know the answers to all your question.
    But the first thing I thought, when I read your comment, was that the lack of empathy is due to a predisposition. Which means, when you lack empathy then you won´t be turned on by empathic sex on the screen but by a selfish one.
    I think that you could take porn as teaching material.
    There are many things 1 should do by force of the others. Why don´t you follow your guts and that´s it!

  3. I’m confused, I do not understand. Is it really your judgement that watching porn would benefit me? letting me grow in my empathy for others? Porn, which degrades both equaly, women (someone might say) and men (in your above expessed opinion), to objects?

    • contraditory? That objectification happens on one side and on the other side you can use porn as teaching material for sex.learners? Sounds like a contradiction but it isn´t. Objectification is an ethical category that refers to not seeing the inside world of a woman. But inside this objectification the lust of the woman and how to provoke it in her can be seen in porn. Partially because porn focuses on womens bodies and men´s abilities to give her an orgasm. As the man is expected to „jerk off anyways“, there is no need to display how to excite him. That is why the reduction of man to his penis is so bad.

  4. Obviously our approach to sexuality differs under essential aspects. And with regard to the video you recommended, isn’t full of preconceptions about gender roles? Besides I’m not a feminist if feminist is interpreted as constant critic of male behaviour and hostile attitude versus men. Quite contrary I always felt much more at ease in male company.

  5. 1) I’m sorry, probably it is all due to my misconception. As you might have already guessed, I’m no expert in porn questions. Up to now, I have watched only few and had never liked what I saw, mainly I felt aqward. From your comments I got the idea you would recommend watching porn as way of learning sexual „techniques“. My belief is, that I do not need techniques. At least not for my sexual life and at my age. Sex for me is part of an entire package of sympathie, liking, loving. I don’t do ONS, have no pleasure in casual encounters. So if I’m with a partner, of course I do my best to be liked by him and give him the most pleasure. And because everybody is different and no sexual intercourse is ever like any other, for every man it needs different „techniques“, so to say.

    2) these women are maybe the counterparts of the sex-mimes I mentioned before.

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